Advisors Management Group Testimonial

Advisors Management Group logoOne thing I discovered in the process is how far out of integrity I really was before starting this coaching.  I could define the word integrity, but the concept of integrity as keeping true to my word to myself was not on my radar.  I was one of those people the article mentions as universally pointing to external causes of the “mess” in my life and never acknowledging the mess arises from my own out-of-integrity behavior.  There were times I felt like there was a secret to being healthy and productive that everyone knew but me.  As is turns out, the secret is that there is no secret.

The “secret” is integrity.  The “secret” is that words matter, especially to yourself.  As an attorney, I am acutely aware that words matter, but ironically I did not think they mattered when I made promises to myself.  Self-imposed deadlines never worked with me because I would just change the deadline.  If I created the deadline, I could change it.  And “getting in shape” was more of an aspirational concept than any sort of action plan.  Things were off in my life, and I couldn’t point to any one specific problem that would solve it.  I now see how integrity was the missing ingredient.   I like applying the analogy of structural integrity to personal integrity.  The article says “you simply cannot be a whole and complete person if you do not honor your word to yourself.”  If a bridge or beam does not have structural integrity, it will fail.  It will look like a bridge or a beam from the outside, but it will not be a successful bridge if the structural integrity is compromised.  I look and act like a human being, but without the integrity, I cannot support a successful life  I will  fail.

I have discovered integrity is the key to everything.  I have discovered that my life cannot be compartmentalized when it comes to integrity.  A lack of integrity in one area – such as being unhealthy and out of shape – will affect all other areas of my life.  I cannot be successful in my professional life if I am out of integrity in my personal life, and vice versa.   I have discovered that integrity does not mean perfection.  I will fail and part of integrity is acknowledging it, correcting it, and getting back into integrity.

I’ve discovered that I feel bad when I eat poorly, but it’s not a feeling of guilty but rather a feeling of missed opportunity.  Instead of my weight steadily going down, I get a spike in weight when I eat poorly, which delays the overall weight loss.  The article talks about being held back by a lack of integrity.  It’s not that you will fail when you are out of integrity, but that you can operate on a higher plane of being if you are operating within integrity.  I can see it now.  Failures along the way represent an opportunity cost, not a bankruptcy.   All is not lost, but I could have done better.  Lastly, I’m discovering this integrity business is a simple concept, but it requires focus and effort to stay on the path.  It’s easy to relapse into bad habits of coming up with excuses, but doing so will serve no purpose but to delay my personal development.

Kurt B. Olson, JD, LLM, CFP®
Investment Advisor Representative